Anxieties of a First Time Father

I was outside on the lawn when my wife came to me with tears in her eyes and said “Honey, we are having a baby”, I was overjoyed and I remember we laughed and hugged.

From then on I began to prepare to meet logistical needs and that become a source of worry because I wanted my  child to have it all from inception. Financial security was core to me and only one question was on my mind “Will I be able to protect and provide for my family?”

However, in the midst of my worries I neglected the emotional needs and attention that my wife required. It is then that I realized that despite my worries my wife was having a hard time too.

A very prevalent duty husbands discuss is listening to their wife, but this duty is often referred to with a negative tone.  Dads recognize this as critical to being a good husband, but many do not particularly relish the task.

Looking back now I’m just tickled to death to be a father and to have a daughter because I have learnt that  indeed a father has to be strong in ways he hadn’t counted on before. He has to provide both financial and emotional support: His partner will need his help because she’ll be undergoing dramatic physical and emotional shifts, and he has to be ready for her to lean on him.

 

Comments

  1. Mary says:

    Good read. Its nice to get a father’s perspective

  2. bupe says:

    Thanks Mary. You are the very first person to comment on it. I appreciate it.

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